One of the first steps in developing self-management skills is cultivating the ability to start and stop oneself, epitomized by the well-loved game “freeze dance.” Familiar in many schools, this involves dancing freely while recorded music is playing and then standing still when it is paused. While there are many versions, all of them essentially practice regulating one’s behavior in response to an environmental change. Some contemporary songs that work well for this activity include and
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One particularly powerful variation of this activity involves a student serving as the “conductor” of the music. The student in charge could raise their hand, show a “peace” sign, or raise a small paper stop sign to indicate a freeze. It is often effective to provide this opportunity to a student who needs practice with their own self-management—when they are “in charge” of regulating others, it provides a parallel experience to self-regulation that becomes more relatable.
Some tunes also contain deliberate, unpredictable pauses. In these cases, anticipating the length of the pauses becomes an engaging game to practice self-management. Two favorites of early elementary students are the dance “” and the action song “.” For upper elementary, “” and “” work well, especially when incorporating planned or improvised movement.
Conversely, many songs contain natural, predictable pauses at the end of phrases. For example, in Bobby McFerrin’s “”:
Here’s a little song I wrote, [breathe]
You might want to learn it note-for-note [breathe]
Don’t Worry [pause, breathe]
Be Happy [pause]
Listening to and singing songs such as these provide opportunities to align our bodies and minds with the rhythm, both practicing and enhancing self-regulation.